SHOW RECAP: This show was DIVA-licious! Kim Olver is one of our favorite guests and she shared some great information today regarding why some couples are disappointed when it comes to holidays like Valentine’s Day. It’s all in the communication baby! Kim also shared the 5 basic needs. Which one is more relevant to you?

If you missed the live show, be sure to listen to the rebroadcast and connect with Kim. Your Happy relationship will thank you!

What Makes a Happy Couple Happy?

Whether you’re in love and want to make it better, or are alone and want to get it right next time, relationship expert Kim Olver reveals the hidden truths behind happiness and satisfaction.

Secrets of Happy Couples is different from other books of the same subject because it is based on one basic truth—that all great relationships begin and end with yourself. Any relationship is the sum of its parts: individuals. This book explores how you, as an individual, can make the difference and create a happy and fulfilling relationship with your partner.

No other book has surveyed couples. Olver also interviewed prominent relationship experts and included their ideas in the book. She discusses the Relationship Cycle, beginning in the Alone Stage, moving to the Getting Together Stage, on to the Compatibility Stage, to the Maintenance Stage, and then back to the Alone Stage. At least 50% of us will find ourselves alone again due to death, divorce or personal decision. Kim doesn’t shy away from that fact; instead she provides tips and strategies to successfully navigate the grief of a lost relationship.

Secrets of Happy Couples: Loving Yourself, Your Partner, and Your Life will provide you with the answer to how you too can be happy and satisfied in your relationship with your significant other.

Join our host, Kelli Claypool, as she talks with Kim about the Secrets of Happy Couples, on the next DivaTalkRadio.

When: Wednesday, January 18, 2012 at 2:00 p.m. EST
Where: http://divatalkradio.com/live
Our interactive chat room will be open to take your comments and questions

About Kim Olver

Kim is the award winning author of Secrets of Happy Couples, a licensed clinical professional counselor, life coach, founder of Coaching for Excellence LLC, and creator of the InsideOut Empowerment process. She spent two years compiling the research and survey data for Secrets of Happy Couples. For more than two decades she has helped clients get along better with the important people in their lives — including themselves — at home and at work.

SHOW RECAP: Rebecca Fein came by the Diva Studio to help us navigate the pain of a bad breakup, or divorce, but first we had some insight into the power of understanding the different ways we express and receive love.

We recommend Gary Chapman’s free quiz on his site

the Five Love Languages.

Kelli and Rebecca both share how to come through a painful divorce. Kelli’s first marriage ended in this expensive, traumatizing way. The losses of friendships, money, community position, self esteem, and family is painful. But there are some steps to move to victory.

1. Forgive your self and your mate

2. Take extreme care of yourself

3. Reach out to new community members

When people look at you strangely after your pain, simply greet them warmly!

Sometimes this heartache follows death and grief also. How important to help eachother.

You can reach Rebecca on

Twitter @RebeccaFein

Facebook: facebook.com/rebecca.fein

facebook.com/feinlifecoaching

SHOW RECAP:

One of the things that we enjoy doing on DivaTalkRadio is giving new authors the opportunity to share their books with our Loyal Diva Listeners. When the information about this author came across my desk, I knew that her story would be ideal to share. What caught my eye is this message from Patsy…

“My name is Patsy Henry, and although I am 65 and retired, I am in a good place.  Two years ago I wrote and had two books published about my bunnies.  At this point, I have 3 books in the “My Hare Line” series and a 4th one in the editing process.  What an awesome place to be at this point in my life!!!  I have had all sorts of rewarding experiences.  Who would have thought??  I look forward to hearing from you.”

How could I not book her to be on the show? I love how she is living out her dream of writing books on her beloved bunnies. I can totally see me writing books about my pet chickens…hmmm, don’t get me started!

Author Patsy Henry came by and shared her sweet spirit and story with us on DivaTalkRadio all about her journey and even  getting published telling her stories about Bunny Rabbits. More proof that following your passion can lead to good things.

Also, we are so excited to announce that we have filled 478 shoe boxes for Operation Christmas Child, nearly reaching our Mission 500 Goal of five hundred. THANK YOU DIVAS!

When you were a child, did you have a pet?  My Hare Line author, Patsy M. Henry, was from a hard working farm family, and there was no time or money for pets. The thought of having one never entered her mind.  At the age of fifty-seven, her husband surprised her with a rabbit for Easter.  Follow along as the author takes you on an emotional ride as she learns how to take care of Bunny Rabbit.  She adds Jack and Flopsey to the family and the action picks up.  Emotions run high as two dogs attack the rabbits.  Our author develops a love and strong bond unlike any she had known before.  My Hare Line tells the story of their sometimes-bumpy ride.

After the tree fell and knocked the fence down, Brownie asked Rascal if anyone escaped. Rascal thought this was the silliest thing he had ever heard. As usual, Rascal talked to Aunt Paula Rabbit about what Brownie had said to him. That’s when he learned about his adventurous family.

SHOW RECAP: Hear from Cheryl Bannerman PLUS catch up on our exciting goals for our Operation Christmas Child!

Despite finding herself divorced and raising a special needs child on her own, dealing with the death of two brothers due to drugs, this Diva has pulled herself out of a traumatic situation and found victory. When everything looked bleak, she found blessings.

In her new book, Black Child to Black Woman (a ‘live diary’), Cheryl (McNeil) Bannerman discusses an experience that will grab your attention right from the start. The character, Tara Walker, speaks directly to the reader as she adds entry after entry into her Journal. She documents her experiences, her family life, her triumphs, as well as her interpretation of life and the world as she saw it. As she grows, so does the language and tone of the diary, which matches her maturity and speech patterns as the time passes.

Experiences are mere images engraved in our minds that we recall when future events occur such as a tragedy or even when a song is playing on the radio. Tara has captured those moments in time in her diary, even the painful ones. Although she came from a loving home with both parents, she struggled to come to grips with siblings addicted to drugs, molestation, attempted rape, broken hearts, and so much more.

Her diary experiences will make you laugh, cry, scream, sigh, and gasp aloud. As Tara struggles to keep her head above water and fight through the tribulations of her life, she continues to smile, continues to grow as a person, continues to be successful in her career, and continues to survive. Through it all and through her daughter, she eventually discovers the true meaning of unconditional love.

Come discover life through the eyes of Tara as she grows from a black child to a black woman.

About Our Guest:
Cheryl McNeil (pen name, Cheryl D. Bannerman, her birth name) is CEO of a small virtual training company based out of Central New Jersey. She works out of her home office and creates classroom training materials, e-Learning modules, job aides and much more for corporate employees and their clients. She holds a Bachelors in Business Management and a Masters in Project Management. She is also the (divorced) single mother of a beautiful twelve year old girl.

In her spare time she loves to read murder mysteries, watch movies, try new restaurants and cuisines, shop with her daughter, and in the summer, walk the boardwalk and take in the sun on the beach. Although her works are fiction, she has incorporated many of her life’s experiences into her stories.

Be sure to invite your friends and family! You can catch the replay below:

SHOW RECAP:

We had a great time as Alicia Cramer came and shared with the Diva’s how combining mindset tools with energy tools can  bring a huge shift in our results. This is because our unconscious beliefs drive most of our behaviors.

You can find her at www.AliciaCramer.com
You can also catch the show replay right here:

Alicia D. Cramer C.Ht. Blends Science and Spirituality to Help You Overcome Your Obstacles to Success.  Alicia not just a Hypnotherapist, she’s  a Success Coach, EFT practitioner and Ordained Minister. Alicia utilizes a powerful approach to inner and outer transformation.

It’s been estimated by the year 2032 over half of the population will be obese.

Health care professionals are warning that people need to use active coping strategies, day-in and day-out, to prevent weight gain, but unfortunately, most do not succeed. In order to lose weight and maintain a healthy lifestyle we must change the way we act and change the way we think.

Hypnotherapy and Weight Loss: A Proactive Solution for Life- Long Results

Hypnotherapy is a proactive, beneficial tool that can help people lose weight and accomplish their goals. By using verbal suggestions during a hypnotic state of heightened awareness, hypnotherapists are able to reinforce positive thinking, address conflicts, and encourage mental rewiring. Mental rewiring is creating or changing neurological pathways in our brains to help change the way we respond to or view a situation.

You can find her at www.AliciaCramer.com

SHOW RECAP: Sally Marks came and shared with us, how to erase the negativity in our lives. With effort we can learn to change our state from down and out to up and at ‘em! You are not helpless. Not a victim. Listen to the replay at the bottom of this post, and watch a short video about Sally right below.

Erase Negativity is a practical guide on how to reduce negativity and embrace happiness.  From meth addicts to multimillionaires, the book offers powerful experiences of individuals who have faced dramatic challenges, but did not lose hope.  Using these compelling biographies, as well as practical advice and simple exercises, the reader is guided on an internal journey toward adopting a more joyful way to live.

About the Author & DivaTalkRadio Guest

Sally Marks is a public relations professional and an award-winning journalist who graduated with honors from the Walter Cronkite School of Journalism at Arizona State University.  In journalism, she has won awards for news writing, editorial writing and headline writing.  Her articles have been published in numerous national, regional and local newspapers and magazines that range from the international Living Buddhism magazine to Arizona’s popular Phoenix Home and Garden.  Her screenplays, The Heir, Voices from Hell and Gay for a Day have won five awards and placed in two national and one international competitions.  Her first book, Paco el pato, Frank the Duck, is a bilingual children’s novel that was used in the Montessori International School curriculum in Mesa, Arizona.  Erase Negativity is her second book.

Listen to the replay right here:

SHOW RECAP:

Women have the incredible ability to take difficult situations and turn them into personal triumphs regardless of their circumstances. In her book, Common Threads – How Women Weave Tribulation into Triumph, Michelle Candland hopes that the stories she shares brings something positive, something empowering, and something inspiring that will help spark a passion to find their place in the world and make a difference no matter what the past has held.

Things we covered:

It’s important to get YOUR story out there.

You are a leader right now! There is SOMEone who wants to emulate you, even if you don’t believe it. Lead with clear intention every single day.  Live your legacy. You are not here to just give a legacy. No need to wait. Let’s choose to maximize every moment!

Surround yourself with supportive people who understand unconditional friendship.

You can catch the show recap right here.

Common Threads is filled with real life experiences, uplifting quotes, helpful tools for self improvement and numerous resources for personal growth. What you do with what you’ve learned has no limits—know that you are not alone, you are surrounded by people who truly want you to succeed and you are worth it!

Common Threads is a compilation of almost 60 years of Michelle’s personal experiences, ranging from early childhood memories, to adult “ah ha!” moments. It is a collection of little somethings that would later prove to be the cause of big somethings, joyful muses, sad observations, sources of pride, causes of embarrassment, and even periods of disgrace. All are threads of experience that are woven together to make up her life tapestry. There were times when she thought she had more unraveling than weaving going on; times when the texture was loose, the colors were dark, and the pattern was ill conceived. Other times, the edges of the images were precise, the colors were rich, and the big picture was filled with both accomplishment and hope for a brighter tomorrow.

About Michelle:

Michelle Candland was born in Los Angeles, California and was the older sister to three brothers. By the time she was three she had already learned the painful consequence of upsetting her alcoholic father, had witnessed her mother learning to please as a survival mechanism and was well on her way to accepting abuse as a normal way of life.

Her parents divorced when she was six and at the age of eight, Michelle’s responsibilities included cleaning the house, getting dinner started and tending her younger brothers when her mother was at work. She smiles when she says, “I feel like I’ve been a Mom all my life!” The negative lessons she learned as a child would guide her down numerous paths cluttered with missteps, poor decisions and misguided loyalties but the positive ones would give her the strength to never give up, the belief in a power greater than herself and the desire to make a difference in the world.

Michelle transformed her relationship inadequacies into an enviable marriage to her best friend, and her numerous short-term job experiences blossomed into a rewarding successful 20-year-career in commercial real estate. Her community involvement with Rotary International has provided her with a robust pool of opportunities to give back to the community and reap the blessings of service above self.

On a personal note, the light of Michelle’s life is her family. She marvels at the fact that although she and her husband Art have blended six children from very different backgrounds, they all get along beautifully and on the rare occasion they are all together at once, the room is filled with laughter. The children are all married and the grandchildren number in the double digits.

Anyone who knows Michelle knows she finds great peace and contentment in her garden. She tends to her flowers and cares for her koi like they were additional family members.

SHOW RECAP:

We had a great time talking with Pam on today’s show. Pam shared real-life stories of clients, friends, and family that have used her Sand Spirits Insight Cards to overcome adversities in their lives.

If you would like to attend Pam’s virtual retreat this weekend, go to http://tinyurl.com/sandspirits for more information.

Didn’t catch the live show? Here’s your chance to listen to the rebroadcast. Be sure to leave a comment or join us over on Facebook (http://facebook.com/divatalkradio) to share your thoughts.

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Pam Hale Trachta, founder of Through A Different Lens, offers ancient practices and contemporary creative tools for healing and transformation. Educated at Stanford and Columbia Universities, Pam has created a unique body of work woven together from her varied experiences as a teacher, life coach and spiritual counselor, photographer, fundraiser, consultant to non-profits, and shamanic practitioner.

Her original products and processes help people shift the way they see, so they can become artists of their own lives. Pam offers workshops, retreats, private and organizational consultations, shamanic coaching circles and leadership seminars for women. She is the creator of the Sand Spirit Insight Cards and workbook, author of numerous articles on personal growth, and is a popular speaker.

In 2000 Pam discovered the images on the beach that became the Sand Spirit Insight Cards and went through treatment for breast cancer. Initially for her own healing, she took a two-year training in shamanic energy healing with The Four Winds Society, studying with shamans in Peru and later adding studies in other indigenous traditions. In 2002 she published the Sand Spirits, following with a workbook in 2006. In the meantime she had published many articles on personal and organizational development and the spiritual journey.

Pam shifted the focus of her practice to combine ancient and contemporary tools for healing and transformation. She offered classes and private consultations at Miraval Resort and Spa in Tucson for seven years, and traveled to give workshops and presentations throughout the West.

Pam has created Sand Spirits Insight Cards, which are photographs along the sea shoreline, that activate inner wisdom, creativity, healing, and transformation. Here’s an example:

Choose one of the three images that calls to you most strongly. What form or figure do you see?  This is your Sand Spirit for now. Try asking it these questions and “listen” for the answer:

1. Who are you?
2. Why did I choose you? What would you like me to see or understand?
3. What message do you have about me and my life?
4. Now thank your Sand Spirit.

The Sand Spirits Insight Cards are unique tools that prompt people of all ages and backgrounds to greater understanding and inner awareness. These 36 stimulating photographs feature thought-provoking images that help users:

• Discover your life purpose, power and passion
• Awaken your creativity
• Facilitate your problem solving
• Reveal your power to heal yourself
• Find inspiration to manifest your dreams and goals
• Communicate your deepest feelings

With an instructional booklet and a linen-covered keepsake box, this package provides everything you need to access your own ocean of wisdom in both personal and professional life.

Pamela will be joining the Divas on the next DivaTalkRadio, Wednesday, October 5th at 2:00 p.m. EST on http://DivaTalkRadio.com/live

LIVE SHOW RECAP:

We were talking all things Wine on DivaTalkRadio with special guest Eric V. Orange.

To connect with Eric, visit www.LocalWineEvents.com, which is “The World’s Leading Wine Events Calendar.” Lists Wine, Food, Beer & Spirits events by city, worldwide.

During the show, we had many questions from our Loyal Listeners Club. Here are a few:

Divas: What is the legs, nose, mouth of wine?
Eric: Legs – when you swirl the wine in the glass and that settles back, the alcohol creates streams. The thicker the legs, the more alcohol in the wine but it’s just one clue for an overall perception.

Nose – simply the smell! After you swirl it, stick your nose down in the glass and enjoy!

Mouth – how it feels in your mouth – heavy, light acidic, crisp… The bottom line is do you like it?

Divas: What should a newbie look for in a wine?
Eric: This depends on what you like. You may start with something light and soft like a White Zinfandel. Certainly have it with a meal or with cheese, crackers grapes. As people progress, they start to gravitate towards bigger bolder flavors in the red side.

Some of our Diva’s enjoy a White Zinfandel, but we are encouraged to move to bolder richer varieties, like a dessert wine with some chocolate.

Divas: What food with which wine?
Eric: Today you can just Google that! Historically we say white wine with lighter foods like fish and darker wines with meat.

Divas: What is an example of a dessert wine?
Eric: A dark red. Ice Wine from Canada is popular this way. It is made from grapes after they have frozen.

Divas: How long can a bottle of wine last after it’s been open?
Eric: Just a few days.

Divas: What is the protocol of taking your own wine to a restaurant?
Eric: Call ahead and ask if it is permissible. Most restaurants don’t love this idea. They may offer to have you bring it in on a “corkage fee,” (anywhere from zero to $25 or $30) to ice it for you, serve it to you. They really don’t want you bringing in something that is already on their list OR something that is really cheap. Perhaps if it is a special occasion and this is a special bottle.

Wine tasting tips:

Don’t wear a lot of perfume! The people around you want to smell the wines.

Don’t go to a wine tasting hungry – It is not a smorgasbord!

How to connect with Eric: www.LocalWineEvents.com to see what is happening in your area. Sign up for his free newsletter called “The Juice” to see what is coming up.

Or connect through Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/Localwineevents

You can stream a replay of this special show right here below:

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On the next episode of DivaTalkRadio, we will be talking “wine” with Eric V. Orange, founder of www.LocalWineEvents.com. Eric will be discussing how to host a wine fundraisers and wine tasting dos & don’ts.

Eric has had a diverse and distinguished 20+ year career within the wine industry. After an enlistment in the Submarine Service of the United States Navy, Eric joined an ex-shipmate who was attending the Culinary Institute of America (CIA) in Hyde Park, New York. He took a job at Millbrook Vineyards outside of Poughkeepsie and spent almost five years learning to grow grapes and make wine as the Vineyard Supervisor. Eric moved back to his hometown to attend college and took a part time job at a 105 yr old private club which quickly became a full time position as the Bar Manager/Wine Steward.

That job led to a position as a Wine Representative for a local Wholesaler, which in turn led to a position as District Manager for Paterno Imports in Colorado. During five and a half years with Paterno, Eric attained certification from theCourt of Master Sommeliers (1st phase) and a Master of Wine Education certification from the International Wine Guild.

He is a member of the Society of Wine Educators. He also served on the board of the American Institute of Wine and Food (AIWF), Denver Chapter. Finally, he decided to develop his idea for LocalWineEvents.com.  Eric and his family currently live just outside of Philadelphia.

His website is  www.LocalWineEvents.com

Plan to join Gina and I as we tip the glass and talk “wine” today on the next DivaTalkRadio, Wednesday, September 28th at 2:00 p.m. EST www.DivaTalkRadio.com/live